Strength In Men

  Missing My Kids This week, my kids are away at sleepaway camp. I miss them tremendously. Sometimes the feeling hits so hard that I cry. And I’ve learned not to fight that. When the emotions swell, I let them. I feel them fully in the moment — no holding back, no distracting myself. Strangely enough, allowing the wave to wash over me helps. Afterwards, I feel lighter, even if nothing about my situation has changed. Once the tears pass, I do something to ground myself: hit the gym, take a walk, watch a show, read, or work on StrengthInMen. Whatever I choose, I try to immerse myself in it and stay present. It doesn’t “fix” missing my kids, but it soothes me in a way that denial or distraction never could. Evenings are the hardest — especially when I’m trying to fall asleep. That’s when my thoughts roam the most, often drifting into painful territory. I catch myself replaying the breakup with my ex-wife, wondering why she wanted to break apart our family, why she once referred to our...

  Trying a Different Approach with StrengthInMen on TikTok Lately, I’ve been experimenting with a different approach for StrengthInMen’s TikTok account. In the past, most of my posts were motivational quotes—something short, powerful, and easy to consume. But I started to feel like that wasn’t enough. I wanted to go deeper. So I began posting more about my own journey —the daily hardships I face, the moments I break down, and the things I do to keep moving forward. It felt like the right thing to do—more honest, more personal, more real . But It's Been Quiet So far, those posts haven’t gained much traction. The likes and follows are low. The reach isn’t what I hoped for. And I’ll be honest: it’s discouraging. I’m not chasing fame. I’m trying to connect with other men who are struggling—just like I was (and still am). And when the message doesn’t seem to land, it starts to feel like maybe I’m missing the mark. That’s the last thing I want. I don’t want to just post for the...

Today Was a Difficult Day, But I’m Still Standing Today hit me hard. Sometimes life feels like too much—and this was one of those days. The weight of everything I’ve been carrying just broke me. I felt  overwhelmingly burdened  by all the stress, uncertainty, and emotional pain I’ve been trying to keep inside. And finally, I cracked. I broke down. Dropped to my knees. And I prayed. A Moment of Raw Surrender In that moment, I cried out to God. I asked Him to: Lead me when I feel lost Help me be a better steward of what He's given me Take away these battles I can’t seem to win Use me for something greater Forgive me for my mistakes and my doubts Every emotion I had bottled up came pouring out. I wasn’t trying to look strong. I wasn’t trying to fix anything in that moment. I just needed to be seen. Heard. Held. And the incredible thing? I felt better afterwards. Lighter. Calmer. Like I wasn’t carrying it alone anymore. Struggling With My Health The emotional weight I’ve been deal...

Lately, I’ve Been Feeling Really Lonely I’ve been feeling really lonely lately—and I want to be honest about it. I live in Pennsylvania, but the truth is,  this place never really felt like mine.  I only moved here for my ex-wife. She wanted to be closer to her parents, and like many husbands and fathers, I said yes without thinking twice. I invested everything into my marriage, my kids, and my family. What I didn’t do was invest in me. I didn’t build a support system. I didn’t make friends. I didn’t create a life for myself outside of being a provider and husband. And now, post-divorce, the silence hits different. Rebuilding From Zero Since the divorce, I’ve been pouring myself into being the best father I can be. My kids are my priority, always. But I've also been trying—really trying—to start rebuilding my own life. I’ve reconnected with a couple of old childhood friends, even though they live hours away. I’ve joined church groups, gone to meetups, tried putting myself out ...

Why I Created StrengthInMen: From Rock Bottom to Purpose I didn’t set out to start a blog. I didn’t plan to create a platform. I just wanted the pain to stop. When I was going through my divorce, everything around me collapsed. My marriage was gone. My confidence shattered. I felt completely alone. No one to talk to. No support system. Just silence. I fell into a dark place— deep depression ,  anxiety attacks , and emotional numbness that scared me. I turned to  alcohol and  CBD  to escape the reality I didn’t want to face. And all the while, I worried about the impact this would have on my kids. What kind of father would they remember? What kind of example was I setting? In desperation, I even went to my ex-wife’s parents—people I once called family—and asked for help. But none came. They wanted to stay out of it. And that cut even deeper. I felt like a complete failure. I kept hoping my ex-wife would come back, even after the betrayal and chaos. I made a lot of mis...

  The Hidden Struggle: Facing Loneliness as a Man Loneliness is one of those experiences nobody likes to admit. It’s the empty seat at the dinner table. The silence when you walk through the door. The late nights when you wish you had someone to talk to, but you don’t know who to call. For men, loneliness often comes wrapped in shame. We’re taught to be self-reliant, stoic, and “strong.” We think if we admit we feel alone, it means we’re failing somehow. But the truth is:  loneliness doesn’t care how tough you are.  It can find you whether you’re surrounded by people or living by yourself. I know because I’ve been there. The Silent Epidemic Studies have shown that loneliness is as harmful to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Yet it’s rarely talked about. Why? Because men are often expected to: Be the rock for everyone else Never show emotional need Keep struggles private So we stay silent. We pretend we’re okay. We fill the emptiness with work, distractions, or ...