Strength In Men

 The past few weeks have been a mix of challenges and progress. My iOS app had a few issues flagged during Apple’s review process. I fixed them, reapplied, and now I’m waiting to see if Apple approves. Fingers crossed—it’s been a long journey to get to this point. On the personal side, I live on a 2-2-3 custody schedule, which means I have my kids every other weekend. When they’re with me, my focus is on them. But when they’re with their mom, I’ve had to face something harder: time alone. That quiet space used to feel like loneliness pressing in on me. I’ve realized that I’m more of a social person than I ever thought. I actually crave connection, especially when my kids aren’t with me. So I started taking small but intentional steps—going to meetups that seemed interesting, catching up with my old childhood friend at bars (he lives two hours away, but worth it), and simply striking up conversations with strangers. Just yesterday, I went to Dunkin’ Donuts and recognized a woman wor...

 I’ve been quietly working on something that I’m both nervous and proud to share — my very first  iOS app for men’s mental health , built completely from scratch. After many late nights of learning, debugging, and pushing through doubts, I’ve officially submitted it to Apple for approval. The app, part of my  StrengthInMen project , is designed to support men with practical tools like  journaling, mood tracking, and daily motivation . My hope is that it becomes a safe and helpful space for men who are working on their  self-improvement, recovery, and personal growth  — whether you’re navigating divorce, rebuilding confidence, or just looking for ways to strengthen your mental fitness. I’ll be the first to admit — it’s not the best looking app yet (UI design is something I’m still learning), but that’s where I’d love your help.  Feedback and suggestions  would mean the world to me — both for making the app more visually appealing and, more importan...

 I’ve been putting in a lot of time for StrengthInMen lately — especially on the iOS app. Honestly, I never thought I’d be building something like this, but here I am, and I’m proud of the progress. It hasn’t been easy. I’ve run into plenty of issues, learned more than I expected, and realized just how much work goes into development. The UI still needs serious improvement (design is not my strong suit), but the app is alive, and that means something. I also started a subreddit —  r/StrengthInMen  — which is now connected to the app. My hope is to create a space where men can talk openly, support each other, and find strength through shared struggles. On the personal side, I’ve been in a much better mental place recently. Not too long ago, I had a weekend where I was really struggling with missing my kids. I even went to a meetup to try to connect with people, but honestly, it didn’t take away the ache. What did help, though, was posting on Reddit. The support I received ...

  Missing My Kids This week, my kids are away at sleepaway camp. I miss them tremendously. Sometimes the feeling hits so hard that I cry. And I’ve learned not to fight that. When the emotions swell, I let them. I feel them fully in the moment — no holding back, no distracting myself. Strangely enough, allowing the wave to wash over me helps. Afterwards, I feel lighter, even if nothing about my situation has changed. Once the tears pass, I do something to ground myself: hit the gym, take a walk, watch a show, read, or work on StrengthInMen. Whatever I choose, I try to immerse myself in it and stay present. It doesn’t “fix” missing my kids, but it soothes me in a way that denial or distraction never could. Evenings are the hardest — especially when I’m trying to fall asleep. That’s when my thoughts roam the most, often drifting into painful territory. I catch myself replaying the breakup with my ex-wife, wondering why she wanted to break apart our family, why she once referred to our...

  Trying a Different Approach with StrengthInMen on TikTok Lately, I’ve been experimenting with a different approach for StrengthInMen’s TikTok account. In the past, most of my posts were motivational quotes—something short, powerful, and easy to consume. But I started to feel like that wasn’t enough. I wanted to go deeper. So I began posting more about my own journey —the daily hardships I face, the moments I break down, and the things I do to keep moving forward. It felt like the right thing to do—more honest, more personal, more real . But It's Been Quiet So far, those posts haven’t gained much traction. The likes and follows are low. The reach isn’t what I hoped for. And I’ll be honest: it’s discouraging. I’m not chasing fame. I’m trying to connect with other men who are struggling—just like I was (and still am). And when the message doesn’t seem to land, it starts to feel like maybe I’m missing the mark. That’s the last thing I want. I don’t want to just post for the...

Today Was a Difficult Day, But I’m Still Standing Today hit me hard. Sometimes life feels like too much—and this was one of those days. The weight of everything I’ve been carrying just broke me. I felt  overwhelmingly burdened  by all the stress, uncertainty, and emotional pain I’ve been trying to keep inside. And finally, I cracked. I broke down. Dropped to my knees. And I prayed. A Moment of Raw Surrender In that moment, I cried out to God. I asked Him to: Lead me when I feel lost Help me be a better steward of what He's given me Take away these battles I can’t seem to win Use me for something greater Forgive me for my mistakes and my doubts Every emotion I had bottled up came pouring out. I wasn’t trying to look strong. I wasn’t trying to fix anything in that moment. I just needed to be seen. Heard. Held. And the incredible thing? I felt better afterwards. Lighter. Calmer. Like I wasn’t carrying it alone anymore. Struggling With My Health The emotional weight I’ve been deal...