Strength In Men

 I’ve been putting in a lot of time for StrengthInMen lately — especially on the iOS app. Honestly, I never thought I’d be building something like this, but here I am, and I’m proud of the progress. It hasn’t been easy. I’ve run into plenty of issues, learned more than I expected, and realized just how much work goes into development. The UI still needs serious improvement (design is not my strong suit), but the app is alive, and that means something. I also started a subreddit —  r/StrengthInMen  — which is now connected to the app. My hope is to create a space where men can talk openly, support each other, and find strength through shared struggles. On the personal side, I’ve been in a much better mental place recently. Not too long ago, I had a weekend where I was really struggling with missing my kids. I even went to a meetup to try to connect with people, but honestly, it didn’t take away the ache. What did help, though, was posting on Reddit. The support I received ...

  Missing My Kids This week, my kids are away at sleepaway camp. I miss them tremendously. Sometimes the feeling hits so hard that I cry. And I’ve learned not to fight that. When the emotions swell, I let them. I feel them fully in the moment — no holding back, no distracting myself. Strangely enough, allowing the wave to wash over me helps. Afterwards, I feel lighter, even if nothing about my situation has changed. Once the tears pass, I do something to ground myself: hit the gym, take a walk, watch a show, read, or work on StrengthInMen. Whatever I choose, I try to immerse myself in it and stay present. It doesn’t “fix” missing my kids, but it soothes me in a way that denial or distraction never could. Evenings are the hardest — especially when I’m trying to fall asleep. That’s when my thoughts roam the most, often drifting into painful territory. I catch myself replaying the breakup with my ex-wife, wondering why she wanted to break apart our family, why she once referred to our...